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Monday, October 31, 2011

Pillow Talk Study: Let's Talk Sex

Okay, dudes, enough of this crap -- let's talk about sex. This researcher asked me to post this entry about a sex study, and clearly he knows where to find the biggest whores in New York. So, if you kiss and tell, give him a holler. Here's the info...

"Adventurous sex life? Want to share your stories?

Participate in Pillow Talk, a new study for gay and bisexual men through Hunter College. We are looking for gay and bisexual men to share their experiences. You will be paid money for completing an online sex diary, and contribute to cutting-edge research on men’s sex lives. Our research team, which is made up of LGBT community members, has been working with LGBT community for more than a decade. We are friendly, sex-positive, non-judgmental. Your participant is completely confidential.

This is a great opportunity to share your experience! If this sounds like something that’s up your ally, please visit the study website and fill out a quick survey to find out if you’re eligible. www.chestnyc.org/pillowtalk.

You can also email me for more info at rjimenez@chestnyc.org."

Sunday, October 30, 2011

A Reader's Words of Support

Been getting great words of support from readers and other hosts. Here's one...

"Hey man
I have always been a reader of your blog and when I am bored with nothing to do. I turn to your blog as a guide. I really appreciate your blog and to see that you are getting flack for informing us the truth of these party is really to me a joke. The reason why its a joke is, the host are acting like what goes on at their parties is a huge secret. Granted I do not partipate but mostly like to watch and jerk off (yes I am that guy), I have been harrased by older guys who cannot respect no. I actaully had to shove one guy in a wall one with my hand around his neck because he was so aggressive (not that I am proud of being violent) but it shows that the host dont do anything about these kind of guys. I have demanded my money back from host before (7 out of 10 I will get it back) because of how disgusting their partiers are. If voyer like myself have had these experience I can imagine how worst it is for people who participate. I ask that you still report ALL parties you know of good or bad. Because people look to you blog to know what they are in for, because the host are not doing it. And its not cool to waste $20-$25 to uncomfortable and miserable. These host need to police their parties more instead of trying to get fucked. which makes no sense because if I am paying to get in your party why should I fuck u?

Any ways please do what you do. Fuck these promoters and host who harasses you. You not here to nurse their egos and pride.

One thing I would like to know about the parties are the racial climates which is the hardest thing to report. I have to parties where its mostly white and its not receptive to black people and viceversa. Some what of a sexual racist climate. Those are most uncomfortable but that's mostly the people who attended not the fault of the party host...

But keep doing what u do. Don't lets the tacky party host win by not informing us what to expect."

AND THESE ARE COOL TOO...

"I wanted to thank you for a wonderful blog you created. I’ve used it a lot over the past year or so and want to make sure I thank you for providing sex party patrons information on parties, not only when and where, but information on who attends and throws these parties. I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with a lot of crap lately, but there are a lot of people who support you and your blogs. Thanks again, and I hope to run into you at a party soon!"

AND

"Evan, please reconsider your leaving. Are you going to let those crappy little piss ants make you fold up shop and go home? I think that you have an obligation to NYC, to your readership and to yourself to stay in there. You provide a sterling service to gay men looking for the community of shared sex and I know so many people would be horrified to see it go. Dont let them get to you, and dont back down. If you are just worn out on the blog and wish to go on to the next project than that is fine, but dont leave because of them... I know I am going to miss your writing, your insight, and your sexy wit when I read your blog. Calm down and make sure you are leaving for the right reasons. Thanks."

HOPE you all have a hot and safe Halloween. --Evan

Thursday, October 27, 2011

Goodbye to all That

Hey guys -- I started this blog because I really enjoyed attending sex parties, and I wanted to get as large crowds as possible at the parties I went. Also, guys were always asking me which parties were good and which were bad, and which were awful. Back then more hosts were discriminating, and honest about who attended. There were parties for hot guys, average guys, and open door policy parties -- totally cool by me. I attended at least a dozen parties in a regular basis.

Now -- three of the best parties closed, and with the exception about about 5 parties with I attend, most have open door policies when they say they are selective. Many times I've walked in and out of parties in less than an hour because the host had misrepresented who would be there -- or wouldn't control the gross, fat, old smelly men who were harassing everyone else.

Anyway, this blog of not fun any more for me. I'm tired or getting harassed by the lying hosts who threaten me for telling the truth, and for posting honest reviews from readers. So, fuck them. I've decided only list parties that I would actually attend.

If a party isn't listed on my site - just assume that it is filled with old, out-of-shape aggressive men. It probably is. (The only exception is CLUB HOUSE, who is always very honest about who attends).

So cheers to PITSTOP, NYJOCK, SWALLOW, PRIVATE PARTY, GOLDEN BOYS USA, MUSCLE GROUP and HARD DRIVE and a few others that I will continue to list -- the only honest, decent parties -- fuck off to the rest of you. May you wallow in the filth you created.

Wednesday, October 26, 2011

REVIEW: The Swallow Party, the bukkake party

Hey guys, here's a review of SWALLOW -- which was my party of the week last week (which was canceled) and also a party of the week this week. SWALLOW is a bukkake party for young, hot dudes. Anyway guys, this is a good time to remind you -- never attend any party that you see on my site without confirming with the hosts first. Parties get canceled, move locations, times, or whatever. I keep up the best I can, but things change at the last minute. Here's the word on SWALLOW...

"During the summer, I saw a listing for the SWALLOW party on Evan's blog and decided to check it out. It was my first time with these guys, but the ad promised lots of hot dudes jerking off and then shooting on one lucky recipient, bukkake-style. In the words of the party's host, "We strip down to our underwear, jack and suck each other for a while, and then the whole gang jacks off into one guy's mouth at the end." What's not to like? The action starts fast and it's intense—there's a 45-minute window of time to enter, the goal being that everyone is in place to start dicking around at pretty much the same time. When I arrived 10 minutes into the entry time, there were already about 20 guys there sucking dick and playing around, and this quickly swelled to a total of 40 or 50. The crowd was pretty diverse in terms of age and all that, but I'd say it skewed younger—much more 20's and 30's and an overall hot, in-shape group. Lots of cute twinks in attendance too, which surprised me a little. A lot of dudes were wearing underwear but many were totally naked, and the underwear came off quickly and the jerking and sucking was fast and furious. I probably got sucked by 15 or 20 guys during the warmup. The host was handsome and a really nice guy, and the party was held in a great apartment with the action happening in two small adjoining rooms—you could feel the heat and fucking smell the testosterone, seriously! After everyone was sufficiently horned-up, the host suddenly announced, "Okay everyone, time to bust a nut." It was unreal! A circle quickly formed around the host, who'd gotten down on his knees in the center of the room, and the first guy stepped up to shoot. One by one other guys followed; sometimes two or three at a time with cum flying literally everywhere! I was with a buddy and we timed it so we'd get off simultaneously, one of us on each side of the dude's face. It's hard to explain, but there's something so incredibly hot about watching guys line up and take turns like this, and hearing the guys grunt and moan while they bust and the noise of the crowd reacting to the cumshots...it's fucking fantastic and I've got a boner thinking about it. See you there"

Here's the info on how to get in...
SWALLOW (Manhattan). Oral/JO/Bukkake Party at a private loft. Usually get 40-50 guys: 20-early 40s, all races. According to the host, it goes like this: "We strip down, jack and suck each other, and then the whole group gangs up to bust a nut, bukkake style, in one guy's mouth." Usually meet about once every two or three months, Thursday or Sunday, 8-10pm. Safe sex nonly; no drugs, minimal attitude. The party is FREE (no cover), just a tip for clothes check.
To get in send pics and stats to: swallow_nyc at yahoo.com, or check out http://groups.yahoo.com/group/swallow_nyc.

Have fun and play safe..

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

Cops Bust Alleged Illegal After-Hours Sex Club in Midtown

Okay dudes -- I waited until I had a news article to show you, but it's true: 38 W. 38th Street Sex Party Space was busted! Here's the story...

Cops Bust Alleged Illegal After-Hours Sex Club in Midtown

After months of complaints, police say they have busted an illegal nightclub that had been operatng in Midtown's Garment District.

MIDTOWN — Cops have closed down an allegedly illegal after-hours nightclub that hosted paid sex parties in a Midtown office building for more than a year, littering stairwells with condoms and drawing a host of raucous patrons, police and neighbors said.

After scoping the area for months, cops from the Midtown South precinct received a 911 in the early hours of Sept. 30 tipping them off to activity at the second and third floors of 38 W. 38th St., a commercial building in the heart of the Garment District, sources said.

Officers who raided the space discovered “an illegal after-hours party where alcohol was sold without a proper license” to a handful of party-goers, along with hundreds of business cards and flyers advertising after-hours parties in the space, court documents show.

The establishment, which was advertised online as La Galeria Loft, describes itself on its website as a “100% totally Private” space with a Moroccan-style tent VIP room, hookah pipe, DJ booth "with an unmatched NYC Club sound system” and “full lighting effects,” available for “before and after clubbing” as well as for anniversaries, baby showers and adult parties.

The site promised “no restrictions” on loud music and says hours are “extremely flexible.”

Neighbors said it kicked into high gear late at night with rowdy party-goers arriving from 2 a.m. to 4 a.m. and heading home as neighbors were headed to work.

Alleged club promoter Alexander Van Bousen, 43, was arrested on misdemeanor charges including the unlicensed sale of alcohol and alcohol warehousing, according to court documents.

“I charge $20 a person, all you can drink. I’m doing nothing illegal here," Van Bousen told arresting officers, according to the complaint.

"We don’t have a liquor license but I do run other night clubs."

Van Bousen has a previous misdemeanor charge for soliciting a prostitute after allegedly agreeing to pay an undercover cop $100 for sex at the corner of West 42nd Street and Eighth Avenue, according to a criminal complaint.

He could not be reached by phone and his lawyer did not immediately return a call for comment.

Messages left at other phone numbers affiliated with the lounge were not returned.

But neighbors said they were thrilled to finally be rid of the problematic space, which they said has been quiet since the police sweep.

“It was totally wild. It was totally crazy,” said Alex Taghavi, the manager at Havana NY, a restaurant directly across the street, who, like other locals, described raucous crowds screaming, swearing and leaving empty liquor bottles and other garbage outside.

“I’m definitely glad. I knew it was going to be trouble. ...It was bad for the neighborhood,” Taghavi said.

But that wasn’t all that was going on behind the club’s gold glitter-encrusted door, according to neighbors who said the venue, which sits directly below a Muslim prayer space and above a massage parlor, also allegedly hosted frequent sex nights with patrons paying for sex.

One advertising e-mail obtained by DNAinfo, geared toward gay men, promised an “exclusive” “after-hours party” “with over 80 guys!” for $25 after 1 a.m.

“Go out, come here, get off, go home,” read the ad, which said that “Condoms, lube, water, Gatorade and more is provided,” and outlined a “mandatory clothes check policy,” where guests were required to leave their cell phones as well as all clothing, except for their “jock, underwear, or sport shorts" at the door.

“Early in the morning we would see condoms in the stairwells. People would proposition folks going up and down the stairs,” said Stephanie Barton-Farcas, the assistant director of Nicu's Spoon Theater which used to occupy the building’s fifth floor, but vacated on Sept. 1 following a dispute with the building's landlord and warnings from cops in August that they were planning a sweep.

“We had an inkling that something was going on,” she said, adding that staff complained repeatedly to their landlord.

Residents said the problems began a year ago, first with noise complaints and then more serious disruptions.

“You’d be getting your paper at 6 a.m. and they’d be just getting out of partying,” said one local resident who’s lived in the neighborhood for more than 30 years, but asked that her name not be used for fear of retribution.

“I was concerned for my personal safety,” she said.

Reached at home, landlord Benji Faraj said he was not present on the night of the bust and insisted the activity was not commonplace. Faraj has not been charged in connection to the illegal club.

“Some guy had an event there, a party… It was a one-shot deal. It was one time,” he said, refusing to answer additional questions about the operation.

Van Bousen is next set to appear in court on November 17.



Read more: http://www.dnainfo.com/places/la-galeria-loft#ixzz1bqmDlE9I

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And here's the report for the NUBIANDUKES on Wednesday...

"As usual, the media only gets it half right...

To our chagrin, a new after-hours str8 party popped up on the 2nd floor of the building a few months ago. They brought with them a whole lotta attention: loud music, crowds in the hallway and lobby, etc. Their 2nd floor space was too small for their large crowds so they moved to the whole 5th floor. Cops showed up on September 30 because of a noise complaint and the 5th floor host, amazingly, admitted that he sold alcohol but that he didn't have a liquor license. He was arrested and later released.

In the meantime, a former tenant of the building blabbed to a reporter that there were also sex parties going on in the building. The reporter combined the two separate stories into one; hence, the after-hours joint on the 5th floor was erroneously reported to also have sex parties. The fifth floor did not host sex parties; our floor was not raided/busted, we've been having parties every weekend since Alex's September 30 arrest, the arrest was not even for hosting sex parties but for selling alcohol without the proper license. (Sidebar: So when u dudes complain about us not having alcohol, now u know why!)

Considering that the building is in the media spotlight right now, our main weekend NuDukes parties are on hold right now. However, we are having our Buttnaked ND2 party this Thursday night at a new location."

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I am so fucking sick of being accused of spreading false info -- I POSTED A FUCKING NEWS ARTICLE!!! Also, you hosts who keep bitching, GIRLS: it was on Channel 11 News at 10, and the fucking front cover of METRO NY. How the fuck is that my fault?

Friday, October 21, 2011

A Group Sex Party Survey

So, guys, not all the hosts are pissed at me. One of the hosts sent me this great survey so that guys could rate parties for the AGS site. He said that he liked that AGS provide a forum for people as a way of keeping event organizers honest. BUT (there's always a but(!) he thinks we'll get a more accurate representation of an event if you dudes use the questions below are a guide. So guys, here's an example of what a survey might look like:

1) We're looking for feedback about the ____ party, have you attended this party and when: a) yes, within the last month, b) yes, within the last three months, c) yes, within the last year, d) no, but it sounds fun, e) no, not my thing

2) Overall how did you like the party, a) had a great time, would definitely go again, b) had a good time, would probably go back, c) meh, d) I turned and ran

3) Did the party host meet expectations about the type of event and crowd, a) yes, b) sort of, c) no

4) How many people were there? a) over 100, b) 50-100, c) 25-50, d) less than 25

5) How was the crowd? a) all hot guys, b) many hot guys, a few duds, c) a mix of hot and not, d) trollville

6) How did the crowd behave? a) friendly, hot and respectful, b) mostly good, but had to slap a couple of wrists, c) I felt like an extra in a zombie movie, d) I felt like I was alone on a desert island, echo, echo echo...

7) Any other comments or observations (up to 200 words).

If you guys have some time -- and want to give me some feedback so that other dudes can know what the fuck they are getting into, I'd appreciate any feedback. I'll continue to provide my own comments too. You can comment below -- or just email your answers, thoughts, or reviews to me at evanmccarthy9999@yahoo.com.

Thanks guys! Have fun and play safe.

Saturday, October 15, 2011

REVIEW: Jacks of Color party @Chelsea Space

Hey guys -- here's another review from my one my regular reviewers. He checked out the JACKS OF COLOR party at Chelsea Space -- which I guess is a very different scene from the parties they hold at Paddles. I've never checked out this party, because it always seemed to me that their door policy wasn't strict enough -- but great to hear that the hot dudes show up late at the party (better then than never!). Anyway, dudes, here's his report...

"Last night, I attended the Jacks of Color party at their Chelsea Space. I’m a regular attendee at their Monday “Massage and Play” parties at Paddles, and almost always have a great time there. The results at the Chelsea Space, despite the warm and hospitable hosting by Lidell, are a little more mixed. The party was advertised as open until 2 am, but the hot guys didn’t show up until after midnight. Before then, it was over 50% old, out-of-shape, desperate white guys: not the kind of guys I go to a Jacks of Color party to meet, to say the very least. I think the difference in Lidell’s parties at the two different spaces has to do with the back room at the Chelsea Space: basically a room with lots of beds and little lighting. The guys who don’t take no for an answer seem to think that the lack of lighting gives them license just to grope you regardless of whether you are enjoying their attentions or not. I got chewed out by one guy just because I moved away from him! And, if you should be lucky enough to find a hot guy to play with, you can be guaranteed that some really sad old guy will break in uninvited and spoil the action by being overbearing. All that changed in the last two hours, when a large group of hot men of color streamed in and brought the party to life. The last two hours were definitely worth the wait, but I think I’m going to stick to Lidell’s parties at Paddles, where the guys are much more respectful, and who actually want to play with guys who want to play with them."

Interesting review (or maybe it's just me). There is nothing worse that a party filled with aggressive out-of-shape guys who don't take no for an answer. Totally pisses me off, and always makes me want to just leave. Hosts really need to watch for this behavior and toss out the offenders. To bad, because it can ruin a party. BUT, I would have been thrilled when a large crowd of black dudes walked in -- shit I would have dropped to my knees then and there and only moved to get down on all fours.

Anyway, dudes, I guess you should hit up the Paddles party (late! hot dudes always seems to show up after midnight or 1am when they leave the bars). I've always heard that the host of JACKS OF COLOR is a cool guy -- and many other hosts consider him the father of these sex party. Not sure this is a moniker he wants, but still I know many hosts admire him. Well, guys, it's Saturday night and I need to find a few guys and get fucked. Have a good one.

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

REVIEW: Pool Boy Events NYC's "Banya Monday"

Hey guys -- one of my blog readers tipped me of to this men's spa in Queens that has a clothing option gay men's night. Sounds like a blast -- or could be. All the best part of the gym without the weights or lifting. Anyway, dudes, another reader checked it out last week, and here's his report...

"Hi, Evan. Great blog, really helpful to find parties. thx. Here's a review of Bana Monday: Went a couple of weeks ago, was there 5pm to 10pm. 10 guys when I arrived, about 25 when I left but people came and went so maybe 30 to 40 different guys total.

Totally different scene from the selective parties, it's a men-only day at a regular spa. Bright lights, no smoking, music not too loud. It says it's not a sex party but by later evening there was plenty of mutual JO and a little sucking. Earlier just discrete JO under the jacuzzi jets -- like it's not permitted -- but by about 9pm out in the steam room and dry sauna too, which got packed 10-15 guys jacking & touching in the extreme sweaty heat. Would have been more fun earlier if there were more guys.

It's a men-only day held at a mid-range spa, not a gay sauna, and has pretty good facilities: steam room, two large dry Scandinavian style cedar saunas (one is really really hot), big jacuzzi and a small swimming pool. Everything except the pool was squeaky clean, pool was cloudy. They also have a lounge room they kept dark for people who like the back room feel but it was mostly empty. Most of the guys are out in the well lit spa areas so it's easy to strike up a conversation and be social.

All ages but mostly middle aged: 3 or 4 in their 20s, mostly 30s to 50s, and a quarter who looked like they came from a nursing home but thankfully kept to themselves. All body types too at every age: a handful who were built or lean hotties who could be at a highly selective party, the rest ranged from OK to waaaay out of shape. At least one-third bears but friendly not pushy types. People wore towels or robes around the spa, naked in the jacuzzi, and in the sauna rooms
the towels came off.

So-so for the sex but great if you like to stare at well-lit cock, enjoy hotel saunas, and have always wanted a little JO in a packed steam room."

Here's the info on how to get in...

POOL BOY EVENTS NYC (Astoria, Queens) "BANYA MONDAY" Clothing Optional - Spa For Men. Not a sex party, but a hot pool party. The spa has a pool, jacuzzi, Russian steam rooms. Monday is gay men's day: 11am-11pm, and is clothing optional.
Check out this site for info on the Monday party: http://www.masseurfinder.com/members/poolboy.shtml

TONIGHT: The Footmen/Touch Party goes full monty!

Hey guys -- if you haven't heard the FOOTMEN-NYC/TOUCH PARTY, which was usually held at bars (and not officially a sex party) has gone full monty with their new locale at my favorite space (LOL): The Gramercy Duplex! So starting tonight -- TUES, OCT 11, 8pm - 1am (and every Tuesday thereafter) -- the party is an uninhibited play sex party with condoms, lube and all. My favorite part of their email where all the pics of the Gramercy Duplex -- in case you guys wondered what it looked like. I'll post them below -- omitting the very indiscreet pic they provided of the front door (dudes?!?).

Here's their email

"FOOTMENNYC/TOUCH HOUSE PARTY FEATURES:

New COMPLETELY PRIVATE (Uninhibited play permitted just like Grand Space)
Split level Duplex (details below)
18+ Party (Join us, College Men!)
FREE MANDATORY shoe check
OPTIONAL coat/bag/clothes check
BYOB (water, provided all night)
Snacks provided as long as supplies last
Refrigerator available for brought beverages
Massage providers

MORE INFO:

OUR NEW HOME is an AMAZING, COMPLETELY PRIVATE and very comfortable Duplex Apartment on the 5th floor; Kitchen, lounge and mingle space on the main floor, with room for massage and casual fun. Bedroom Loft upstairs for more sexual play and privacy (Condoms & lube provided)."

Good luck guys in your new location -- I wish you all success - and have fun!

Monday, October 10, 2011

A reader responds to the Gramercy Duplex mess; and another PRIVATE PARTY review

Hey dudes -- You know I really was ready to put the continued ugliness of the Gramercy Duplex behind. I seriously waited two days with no email, and was concerned -- I thought I would want to know -- so I posted the note from my blog reader. Even some of the hosts who like me complained that I was too quick to post something unsubstaniated, but I kept thinking that I would want to know. Anyway, thanks for all the positive emails (like the one below) -- which also includes a review of PRIVATE PARTY. Check out what he has to says...

"hi evan, i know that you are a very busy guy but i thought i would drop you a note to express my feelings as well as give you a review.

Recently on your blog you were beat up by your critics. I found it most unfair and unwarranted. You were only reporting info that was given to you . I highly respected the fact that you printed the whole letter and equally impressed that you did not go toe to toes with this group. Your response was perfect. Your blog gives a great service to those out there who are looking for entertainment . I ran a blog in Florida and i know how time consuming it is. You will never please everyone , so just do what you feel is right and keep up the good work. Through you i have found several good group, meet new people and have had a blast. I was invited to your party , oh well. I dont know if you you get to all or any of theses parties but he is a review of one that i recently went to last wednesday >

Private Party: Prosessional/ Social? mixer? private party
Occurance: one a month
Place: West side 30's

Arriving you will find location and parking very easy . The host is very charming and welcomes you with a very freindly open smile. The host requires new members to go thru a interview process. Although i hestiated at this in the beginning , it really wasnt all that bad. You go thru a 7 minute phone interview first. Everthing is really explained very well so there is no confusion as to what type of party it is and why you want to go.
Once arriving new members fill out a 5 question questionaire and are screened by two very handsome gentlemen. If you pass muster , you are invited to stay . Beer wine and drinks are provided. By 11:00 the party is really rippin. There were at least 125 guys at this party and because the selection process is so good there wasnt one bad looking guy there. The mix is great . Whites , Blacks ,Asians, Latinos , tops , bottoms , you name it , it was there. The orgy does slow down a bit. There are no wall flowers here. Everyone participates . Even when i was recovering , i was asked to join back in as soon as i could. WOW. The host provides everything , condoms , lube , drinks , , towel and shower and he goes out of his way to make sure everyone has a good time. Definitly the best party in the city. Please forward to him this message so that he will keep up the good work .

On a final note: Evan , continue the passion of your blog and to those who dis you , go elsewhere , the internet is big , leave Evan alone.

Sincerely, XXX"

Well, dudes -- the email says it all. Thnx for the support guys, and I'm glad you all enjoy the blog!