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Tuesday, March 24, 2009

New York By Night (Garment District)

Went the the great New York By Night party last Wednesday (3/18). They had a huge turnout -- at least 100 guys. I heard from the host that he had at least 25 new guys. The crowd ran a wide variety from the twinks (and their admirers) -- who all seemed to migrate to the couch by the TV (playing porn) to the muscular guys who were fucking on the sectional. There were every kind of guy in between Was a hot time. Got fucked and fucked more often than I care to admit...had one less guy than I wanted, and one more than I should have.

Already looking forward to the party next month.

*Send pics & Stats to: RBN33@MSN.com.

Tuesday, March 17, 2009

Next Magazine: Always wanted to try a sex party?

And don't miss this article (not mine)...

http://www.nextmagazine.com/features/index.php


The Life of the Party
Photographer Joe Oppedisano takes fetish fashion below the bible’s belt
Always wanted to try a sex party? From the kinky to the vanilla, find one that’s right for you

One of the best things about living in Manhattan is that you can get whatever you want any time you want it. Sex parties are no exception to the rule. Many people know that they exist, but don’t know where to find them or are too nervous to actually try one out. So we’re taking the mystery out of some of the city’s hottest parties. Though we’re keeping the locations secret (most of them are selective about who they invite) here’s everything you ever wanted to know. Now go out and play safe, kids.

• New York Jock PartyWhere: Hell’s KitchenWhen: Once or twice a month, usually on Fridays. Starts at 10pmHow to get invited: Email NYJockParty@yahoo.comNumber of Guys: About 80
This party is like a night at a bar in Chelsea on fast-forward. Muscular, attractive guys abound (all in their underwear or less, thanks to the mandatory clothes check) but there’s also a lot of attitude. Held in what seems to be a two-floor residence with hanging curtains to separate the space and beds, benches and couches for the action, the whole event is very organized. There are usually more guys standing around watching or waiting for something better to come along than actually getting it on, but if you want a night full of the city’s hottest guys ripe for the picking, this is the place to go.

• Happy LandingWhere: BrooklynWhen: Every couple of monthsHow to get invited: Email: HappyLandingHQ@gmail.comNumber of Guys: About 100 (including girls)
like a scene from John Cameron Mitchell’s film Shortbus, Happy Landing is a Brooklyn queer art/music/sex party. Held in a secret warehouse basement, the party’s patrons are greeted with a bright neon wonderland (the walls are literally covered in neon-painted junk) where DJs spin, liquor flows and boys and girls (yes, vagina) roam around in various states of undress. While the winding backroom maze features a mattress and a sling, the atmosphere is more hipster social than dirty dungeon. Plus, the sliding scale admission ($0–$20) and the pay-what-you-can bar means those without funds aren’t turned away.

• New York By NightWhere: Garment DistrictWhen: Once a month, usually the first Tuesday or Sunday of the month starting at 8:30pmHow to get invited: Email RBN33@MSN.comNumber of Guys: About 60
While the vetting process for an invitation—a telephone and pre-party, in-person interview with host Richard—may seem like a bit much, it really helps add to the social and inclusive atmosphere of the party. Held in a large loft apartment and attended mostly by handsome men over thirty and a few hot young bucks, the party invokes a sense of camaraderie that is rare at these sorts of soirées. People socialize before and after the action (and during “rests”) and the play tends to include a number of people rather than pairs heading off into their separate corners. This makes New York By Night the closest thing there is to an actual orgy, but you wouldn’t think that giving the civilized vibe of the affair.

• New York Bondage ClubWhere: ChelseaWhen: Every Sunday from 6pm–10pmHow to get invited: Visit NYBondageClub.comNumber of Guys: About 30
This isn’t a real sex party, since no sex is allowed, but you will find plenty of guys being manually stimulated (yes, hand jobs are fine) while tied up or bound in all sorts of contraptions. Held in a straight S&M club, the party scene includes cages, restraints, bondage crosses, stocks and all sorts of devices to aid in tying people up and getting them off. Most guys remain fully or partially clothed and the fun of the party is watching various bondage scenes unfold. Of course, you could be asked (or rather, ordered) to participate, but if you weren’t looking to be on the receiving end of a rope burn, you wouldn’t be in attendance now, would you…

• Grab AssWhere: ChelseaWhen: Every Wednesday from 8pm–1amHow to get invited: Visit CumMonkey.comNumber of Guys: About 20
Held in a discreet but easy-to-find Chelsea play space, the Grab Ass party is as close as you’ll get to an old-fashioned sex club, but with a new twist: it operates on a “harm reduction” platform, offering confidential, rapid-results HIV testing on the premises so that participants can know their status before the fun starts (or even during). Not surprisingly, safe sex is encouraged and condoms and lube are readily available in the several rooms and dark hallways of the club. The men tend to be on the older side, but there is good racial diversity and a number of sexy younger gentlemen of color.

• West Side ClubWhere: Chelsea/Union SquareWhen: 24/7How to get invited: Just show up, or visit WestSideClubNYC.comNumber of Guys: Varies
The West Side Club, and its sister site, the East Side Club, are the closest things that New York still has to a traditional bathhouse. Visitors pay for a membership (either temporary or otherwise) and either a locker or a more spacious “changing room.” Towels are provided so you can cruise the clean and well-kept two floors on your way to the showers—or somewhere else. What the crowd is like depends on the time of day and day of the week, but a recent Friday night saw about 50 guys hanging out, many of whom were quite attractive and frisky. There is often on-site HIV testing administered by professionals, but the club’s staff could stand to be a bit friendlier.

Happy Landing (Brooklyn)

HAPPY LANDING (Brooklyn)From Next..."like a scene from John Cameron Mitchell’s film Shortbus, Happy Landing is a Brooklyn queer art/music/sex party. Held in a secret warehouse basement, the party’s patrons are greeted with a bright neon wonderland (the walls are literally covered in neon-painted junk) where DJs spin, liquor flows and boys and girls (yes, vagina) roam around in various states of undress. While the winding backroom maze features a mattress and a sling, the atmosphere is more hipster social than dirty dungeon." ($0–$20 admission), 100 people (including girls). Every couple of months.

For info email to…HappyLandingHQ@gmail.com

New York Bondage Club (Chelsea)

NEW YORK BONDAGE CLUB (Chelsea) From Next..."Not a real sex party...as sex is not allowed, but you will find plenty of guys being manually stimulated (yes, hand jobs are fine) while tied up or bound in all sorts of contraptions. Held in a straight S&M club, the party scene includes cages, restraints, bondage crosses, stocks and all sorts of devices to aid in tying people up and getting them off. Most guys remain fully or partially clothed and the fun of the party is watching various bondage scenes unfold." guys, Sundays.

For more info...www.NYBondageClub.com

Paying for Sex?

People always ask me why should they should pay to get into these parties...or in essence, pay for sex...

"Good sex is worth paying for if you have the money, just as a good concert is worth the price of admission..." (Rick Whitaker, Assuming the Position).

I agree -- also, you are paying for help cover the cost of the space, the condoms, the booze, and the energy is went into putting it together. If you've ever tried to even set up a threesome, you know how difficult a setting up a sex party can be.

It's usually $20 or $25, which you'd just waste anyway.

Friday, March 13, 2009

RMO – Real Men Only (Queens)

REAL MEN ONLY PARTY (Fresh Meadows, Queens)
Apartment, may move to a hotel. No attitude group orgy; Mixed group: 20s-40s, all races, no attitude. Saturday nights & Sundays afternoons. Donation – $5.00

Respectful, very discrete, and no attitude group orgy... This party caters to men of all ages, all races, all sizes, and all cocks.. No pressure party for real men that like to be intimate with other real men. Tops, bottoms, gay, straight, curious, bi-sexual, tri-sexual…it’s all good. They do not discriminate; no drama, no attitude – just a chill fuck fest. However, they appreciate everyone’s participation. If you feel uncomfortable in your underwear or naked, this is not the party for you.

Send pics and stats to...slurpeecoach@hotmail.com.

Body Builder Sex Party (Manhattan)

BODY BUILDER SEX PARTY (Manhattan) For body builders only (and their slaves). The parties are always held in discreet locations with at least 10 bodybuilders.

Body Builders: Must be very well built (bodybuilder physiques NOT swimmers builds) You are free to bring along your own sex partner (male or female) to the parties. This is NOT JUST A SEX PARTY. This party is for muscle into muscle for mutual muscle play, and an opportunity to meet with and increase your network of bodybuilder friends.

Slaves: From time to time they invite a number of slave boys to the parties--the purpose of the slaves is to worship and service the bodybuilders who attend the parties. Body builders can have a slave give them a full body massage, or just flex their bicep in a slaves face and order them to lick it. If they want to get raunchy, the slaves are only too happy to service their every sexual need. Slaves must be clean & well groomed, with toned athletic/muscular tonedbodies.

Sound hot or what? I'm applying to be a slave.

For more info...www.bodybuildersexparty.com

Thursday, March 12, 2009

Gallery of Men Party (Garment District)

GALLERY OF MEN (Garment District) Every two weeks, guys in their 20s - 40s. Smoking area within the facility. $20 admission first hour, $25 after that.

Okay men...I've never been to this, just heard about it today. The guy wrote me that dudes who go are mostly holdovers from GCN/Studio days -- which means a mix of guys. Unfortunately, he reports that there's a lot of BB fucking, which is not cool at a group sex party (at least in my opinion). Anyway, I hope to give it a try. Be safe...

Must email face & body pics & stats to...mailto:pics...thegallerynyc@yahoo.com.

Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Red Light Zone Party (Jersey City)

RED LIGHT ZONE PARTY (Jersey City, NJ) The place is clean and there's no attitude. Door open 11pm-3am, but you can stay to 5am. Snacks, drinks, beer, alcohol, condoms and lube all provided free all night! $20 donation at the door. Those who come Friday get half off on Saturday.

I haven't been to this yet -- but may go this weekend. A friend got me invited. This is what someone wrote me..."Party is close to Journal Square — a huge PATH hub in Jersey — and has a very attractive host. The first time I went, I met a couple of hung daddies, but each subsequent time the crowd's been hung black guys. It's a good vibe, so if you're into Afr-AM guys, it's a good place to be."

Send pic and stats to....redlightzoneparty@yahoo.com

Sticky Rice Party (Gramercy)

STICKY RICE PARTY (Gramercy) An exclusive Asian-only sex party in NYC for "young, hot, lean, in shape Asian guys" between 18 - 35. Everyone pitches in for cost of hotel, and brings their own condoms. Saturdays.

Needles to say, I've never been. If you are an Asian dude, only into other Asian dudes, then man here is Mecca.

email for invite: sticky-rice-party-nyc@googlegroups.com

Thursday, March 5, 2009

Cum Monkey/Grab Ass Party (Chelsea)

Cum Monkey/Grab Ass Party (Chelsea) Studio space, not apartment. Usually 30-50 guys attend, from 20-30-40 YOs. Every Wednesday. $25, plus $2 for clothes check.

Since this re-started a few months ago is much better class of guys, much hotter mix, some attitude. The host is very cool. Can be an amazing group of guys -- sometime lots of very hot guys -- usually a mix of ages and body types -- always someone fuckable, and lots of guys, so you're pretty much guaranteed a good time.

Check it out at... www.CumMonkey.com

A-Plus Muscle (Downtown)

A-Plus Muscle (Downtown) Hot Muscle Studs only.

Has anyone ever been to this? I found it listed in HX-- but have never been.

Try emailing them at aplusmuscle@aol.com

Hot Brooklyn Party (Brooklyn)

Hot Brooklyn Party (Brooklyn) Hot group of guys, some attitude. 30-60 guys attend in their 20-40s. $25 for new guys, $15 for members, $10 for hot students.


Send pics & Stats to: hotbklynparty@prodigy.net

The Massage Party (Brooklyn)

Touch in Brooklyn/Massage Party (Brooklyn). Its a good party...a bit slow going at first, but then it heats up.Very sexy.

Check it out at www.massageparty.info

Water Sports/Golden Boys (Brooklyn)

College Water Sports Kegger Parties/Golden Boys USA (Brooklyn) Held in the basement space in a brownstone. Only accept guys who are in-shape, 18-30 years old, and get into (or tolerant of) guys pissing on other guys. Have regular rooms and wet rooms (even though there is a water sports theme, you don't have to be into W/S to have fun at this party). (I've never been to this one. This was reported to me by the promoter.) Average 75-120 guys attend, all 20 YOs, $25. Second Saturday of every other month. …

Check them out at www.GoldenBoysUSA.com

Thugs 4 Thugs Sex Party (Brooklyn)

Thugs 4 Thugs Sex Party (Brooklyn) I've never been, but am told it's for guys who love big black cocks. $15 donation. (You can save $5 for each additional person you bring with. If you bring 1 person you donate $10, but your guest still pays $15. If you bring 2 people you donate $5 and if you bring 3 or more, you donate nothing, but your guest still pay their $15)

Weekly safe sex party for in-shape Black and Latino guys. No shirts or under shirts allowed. Every Friday, Saturday 12:00 midnight - 7:00am & Sunday 9:00pm - 3:00am.

Check them out at http://thugs4thugsex.com/

Jacks of Color (Harlem)

JACKS OF COLOR (Harlem). A New York City Club For Men of Color & their Friends. HUGE parties 70-120 guys attend, all ages.

This party is unfortunately on hiatus, but looking for a new spot. The host is a really cool guy, and hopefully will get this party started again.

Check them out at www.jacksofcolor.com

Ed & Steve Group (Upper Manhattan)

ED AND STEVE GROUP (Upper Manhattan). Private apartment. Interracial gay group that meet twice a month. $20.

This very nice gay couple -- one black & one white -- host this gay parties on Sundays about twice a month. they get about 80+ guys -- mostly regulars, and about 10-15 new guys each time.

Check it out at...http://groups.yahoo.com/group/EdAndSteve

SKYBLU (Harlem)

SKYBLU (Harlem) For older attractive masculine Black & Latino guys 35-50YO.

Okay -- I've never been to this because I'm white and too young. But it sounds like a cool party for older dudes.

Check out: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/SKYBLU-GROOVE/

Or email stats and pics to: SKYBLU-GROOVE-subscribe@yahoogroups.com


The NYJockparty (Chelsea)

The NYJockparty (Chelsea) Held in a beautiful loft apartment. Guys in the 20s-30s. Usually about 30-50+ guys attend, twice a month. $25.

This is one of the MOST discriminating parties -- also one of the hottest, and filled with ATTITUDE. The host of the party guards the door and turns guys away if you are not hot enough for him (I don't think he could get into his own party). The website has pics of many of the guys that attend--and the pic are accurate: The NYJock Party has the hottest guys with the most attitudes.

BUT...For me this is NOT my favorite party and sometimes can be a bore --If you're there just to watch it's great: Gorgeous guys. The downside, to me, is really the attitude. It's very clicky. Many of the guys think they are too hot for anybody -- so most guys just stand around and look at each other -- NOT a lot of action at the party, and it can be a boring. Also, I have a hot muscular body, and still have to work like dog to get attention. Sometimes it's too much work. If you DON'T have a killer body and face -- just forget it -- you'll be ignored. That said the guys are amazing!

Just to warn you before you apply that the host of this party is a major asshole--who couldn't get into his own party. I go to this every so often because there are some really hot guys, but the little queen who runs it is a big turnoff.

Check out their website: http://www.nyjockparty.com/.

The Meatpackers (Brooklyn/Park Slope)

The Meatpackers (Brooklyn/Park Slope) In cellar with cages and rooms. 1st & 2nd Sat of each month.

I was hanging out with one of my goofy friends who lives in Brooklyn a few years ago, and he said he'd been going to this hot sex party in a basement nearby. The party was starting in a few hours -- so we went. I have to say the party was hot, but basement was a little scary, which in a way made it even hotter. The basement is filled with tiny closet-like rooms with windows so other dudes could watch, and wooden beds with mattresses, and everywhere chain-link fences. Some areas were well lit, but other areas were dark. It was a weird setting for me for sex party -- very back alley Castro District 1974 -- but fucking hot. Mostly hot guys of all ages. Good mix of white, Hispanic and some amazingly hot black guys -- a number of whom fucked the hell out of me in those tiny rooms -- and one up against the chain fence.

I haven’t been to this is years, but if it's still half as hot, give it a shot.

The only way to get in touch with the host is to call: 212-677-3599.

Butt Lickers (Chelsea)

Butt Lickers (Chelsea). Rimming parties once a month.

I've never been to this one either, but a dude asked me to post info on it. He said it was his favorite party, but he didn't really like the space.

If you're into rimming. just contact them...nybutt@yahoo.com

New York Jacks (Chelsea)

NEW YORK JACKS (Chelsea). Mutual masturbation party held at Paddles, doors open 7:30 to 9:00PM, party until 11PM; $20 NYJacks members with membership card$25 guest

You like JO and JO only-- well, dudes, here is heaven for you: Mutual masturbation between consenting adults is legal AND safe. I've never been -- JO to me means it's time to go home, but if you're into it, this is how they describe the place -- Guys of all ages, body types, sizes: tall, short, hairy, well endowed, young, older, all races, gay, married, bi-, etc. They don’t discriminate against physical attributes, only inappropriate behavior.

A dude asked me to post this. If you're into JO, this is it men.

For more infor, please check out...http://www.nyjacks.com

The Bana Pool Party (Downtown)

BANA POOL PARTY (Downtown) In a club: a huge space with different levels and rooms: hotubs, pools, shower rooms, saunas, steam rooms, sex rooms, dancefloor, bars.$40-50 general admission, $60-80 gets you a locker+, and $100 VIP pass.

This party is cool -- and more social than most of the parties--you can dance, swim, hang out and have a good time. The crowd is filled with hot to average guys all looking to have a fun night.

A lot of hot guys have written me about this party-- all positive stuff--and everyone seems to have a hot time, no matter what you're looking for. They have a great website that explains everything.

BANYA (Chelsea)www.hotsteammachine.com or www.thebanapoolparty.com

B.I.S.H.O.P. (Downtown/Midtown)

BISHOP (Downtown/Midtown) Hotel room either in Midtown or Downtown. Usually 30-50 guys attend--mostly 30-40 YOs, $20.

Okay -- I guess tonight it bitch night. I've written 3 blogs about the 3 worse parties--at least to me. As for BISHOP, I'll admit I’ve never been to this party -- and it's because they take anyone. They are always advertising on CL. I feel I can comment because dozens of dudes have written to me about this---almost all negative.

The good news first: One guy reported that the party can be pretty hot, because it attracts a wide group of types, ages, ethnic groups without discrimination. (It is the only sex group I know of that meets at lunchtime) -- which is perfect for the dude who works nights, or dudes with wives who think they are at a business lunch.

About a dozen guys wrote me that the party is filled with really old fat guys who couldn't get into the other parties (well, maybe The All Male Party). They say there are usually a few hot guys there clumped together. I number of people comment that the host freaked them out, and is not cool. Most of the reports are pretty standard, and none (except the one) positive. Sorry dudes -- it's why I don't attend: they don't screen, and let anybody in.

If you want to attend, email request (no pic or stats needed) to bishop.group.info@gmail.com.

All Male Party (Midtown West)

All Male Party (Midtown West). In apartment. 25-50 guys.

I haven't been to this one in years for two reasons...

1. The party is way too expensive: they have this weird fee structure where you join up for a year or for gang bangs or whatever (check out their website), and they make you fill out all this ridiculous forms. DUDES--I want to get fucked, I don't want to join a fucking country club. Also, I can't understand why they need all those details about my life.

2. I could have forgiven the fucking fee structure, and all the dumn forms, if the party was filled with hot, sexy guys. Men--this was the shittiest party I have ever attend. The fat guys were only outnumbered by the ugly guys. I didn't know where they found all these trolls. Some were actually gross--and aggresive. There was only one dude I would even go near, and the two us just fucked in a corner while all these assholes tried to paw us and watch us fuck. I never returned. I don't know how they keep in business, except that they offer to let guys under 22 or something in free -- I guess to visit their grandfathers. Avoid, AVOID, AVOID!!!

If you're into trolls, have at it guys...www.AllMaleParty.com.

The Men's Party & Bear Hunt (West Harlem)

The Men's Party (West Harlem) Held in a big apartment in West Harlem. The party is a mix from some hot young guys to some fat guys. Has sling. Usually has about 30-50 guys attendings from 30-40 YOs. NOT a safe sex party. Have parties once a week. $25.

When this party was on W96 -- I thought it was hot, and usually had a good time. Generally a few really hot dudes, and then a mix of average guys to a few trolls. The host was a nice guy and often had HIV tests and was very social. Then the party moved to Brooklyn, and I lost touch for a while. At least a year ago (not sure), the party moved back to Manhattan and set up shop in a large apartment in West Harlem. I started going again, and was did not like the new vibe—too sleazy for me, and not in a hot way. There were fewer hot guys, and most of the tops (not very hot) there only wanted to BB. (The party is not strict about safe sex.) Also the tops either ignored you when you said you wanted to use a condom, or just pretened to have one on and tried to fuck you anyway -- not cool. So I stopped going.

The host is pissed at me for blogging about this, but that's my experience at his party -- and it's NOT COOL.

If you don't care, here's how to reach them... www.themensparty.com

They also, hosts a bear party (which I've never been to), but if that's your thing, it's BEAR HUNT...www.bearhuntnyc.com

The Red Light Zone Party (Jersey City)

RED LIGHT ZONE PARTY (Jersey City, NJ)
I just heard about this party this week. Some dude, wrote me about it and sent me info. He said that the Red Light Zone Party is close to Journal Square — a huge PATH hub in Jersey — and has a very attractive host. The first time he went, he met a couple of hung daddies, but each subsequent time the crowd's been hung black guys. It's a good vibe, so if you're into Afr-Am guys, it's a good place to be. The place is clean and there's no attitude. Door open 11pm-3am, but you can stay to 5am. Snacks, drinks, beer, alcohol, condoms and lube all provided free all night! $20 donation at the door. Those who come Friday get half off on Saturday.

Here's how the reach them...redlightzoneparty@yahoo.com

Anyone ever been to this? Let me know your experience...